Where do I draw the line?
Right now I'm in a position of disagreement with one of my parents. The issue itself is not important as it is not an issue of salvation or my life's future or anything. What is important is I'm having a hard time finding the line between disagreement and disobedience. I've never respected people who rebel against their parents for the sake of rebelling. The fact is, I'm not disagreeing for the sake of rebellion. I've been praying about it and seeking the wisdom of many counselors, and I just think my parent is wrong on this issue.
I hate being like this. It's kind of shaking me up. For the first time in my life I'm experiencing what every child must: their own life-apart from their father and mother. Again, the matter of dispute is not my problem, my problem is I know that this will be one of many disputes in which my parents may be wrong. This is shaking me up, as they are, and always have been the rock I stand on. Even as old as I am, I still have trouble looking at them as human beings and not the alpha-and-omega that a parent is to a child.
The anxiety over the issue stems from the fact that we are so close knit in our family. I've doubted my parents in the past as we all do, but they've always been proven right. They've always been right.
However, I am an adult now. Does that mean that I know everything? No! Does that mean I shouldn't listen to my parents? Certainly not. Does that mean that I'm capable of making my own decisions in life on my own? Never, but I still have to make them.
The thing is, I still want to respect my parents, and their opinions as they are very wise, are very Godly, and have lived in the world much longer than I.
I sound like a squealing little boy who wants candy and I don't like it. But what if I'm right?
Where do I draw the line between disagreement and disobedience?
I hate being like this. It's kind of shaking me up. For the first time in my life I'm experiencing what every child must: their own life-apart from their father and mother. Again, the matter of dispute is not my problem, my problem is I know that this will be one of many disputes in which my parents may be wrong. This is shaking me up, as they are, and always have been the rock I stand on. Even as old as I am, I still have trouble looking at them as human beings and not the alpha-and-omega that a parent is to a child.
The anxiety over the issue stems from the fact that we are so close knit in our family. I've doubted my parents in the past as we all do, but they've always been proven right. They've always been right.
However, I am an adult now. Does that mean that I know everything? No! Does that mean I shouldn't listen to my parents? Certainly not. Does that mean that I'm capable of making my own decisions in life on my own? Never, but I still have to make them.
The thing is, I still want to respect my parents, and their opinions as they are very wise, are very Godly, and have lived in the world much longer than I.
I sound like a squealing little boy who wants candy and I don't like it. But what if I'm right?
Where do I draw the line between disagreement and disobedience?
posted by Your humble servant at 5:28 PM
4 Comments:
I know that we talked about this a bit at the Magpie, but in thinking about it more I think there is a line between disagreement and disobedience. You know that parents, who are also human in nature, are fallible and are upon occasion wrong on certain subjects. However, as you also know, a parent's correctness does not negate their role as parent. It is okay and natural to disagree with your parents at some point.
I think the issue of obedience/disobedience is a factor while we still live under a parent's household (which I still do to an extent). For example, we obey the laws of Iowa because we live in Iowa. We may not have to agree with them, but we have to follow them.
Think of it this way too, this strain and having to make up your own mind are good things. They are helping you to move into adulthood and establish boundaries of who you are and who you are not. :)
(I hope I didn’t come off as too much like a social worker in training) Take Care Cade ~ Laura Lizzy
No no. It's perfectly fine. I appreciate having someone outside of my family who will say this stuff. I hear "social worker" stuff all the time, so I don't mind at all. :)
By the way, I've been trying and trying to comment on your blog and it won't let me. Am I not doing it right, or do you have to have a password of something?
I have been looking at it. It seems that Xanga won't let anyone without a Xanga username post because of issues they had with nonusers harassing their users. The one thing that you can do is click "email it" and email a response to the post to my username or my email (mcnala01@luther.edu). I think that is the best way to work around it because all it asks for is your email address. Give it a try :) Talk to you soon.
Thought I would try your name on Google Blog search to see if it would work, it did
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